Want to Feel More Confident? Start With These Three Simple Shifts
Discover a new way to think about confidence — and learn three simple shifts that will help you build real, lasting self-trust.
When I started writing my thesis on confidence for my master’s, my supervisor — an experienced and no-nonsense psychodynamic coach — asked me a simple but powerful question:
“What does confidence really mean to you?”
And he wouldn’t let me get away with a surface-level answer.
It made me stop and really think.
Not just about how we talk about confidence, but how it actually feels inside us.
For me, confidence isn’t about bravado.
It’s definitely not about performing.
It’s about safety — the sense that no matter what happens, I will be okay. I am resourceful, I can figure things out. Like a sense of self-trust I could lean on, even when things were messy or uncertain (maybe especially when they are uncertain!).
In this week’s episode of The 10-Minute Shift, I’m sharing the three ways I now think about confidence - and why they’ve changed the game for me (and for so many of my coaching clients too).
Here's a glimpse:
Confidence isn’t just a feeling - it’s a skill you practice.
It’s also a state of being you can anchor into.
And most of all, it’s something you become by stretching your edges, just a little bit at a time.
The sweet spot is not staying comfortable, but it’s also not terrifying yourself either. It’s living in the stretch - the growth zone - consistently enough to prove to yourself that you can handle it.
A few questions for you to reflect on:
Where in your life are you still waiting to "feel" confident before you act?
What would shift if you treated confidence like a muscle you could train instead?
What's one small, meaningful stretch you could try this week?
I’d love to hear what resonates. If you’re a paid subscriber, hit reply or leave a comment - it’s such a joy to hear your reflections and to get the discussion going.
Stretching right there alongside you,
Amy 🌿
